Wednesday, September 24, 2008

A Personal Post (Rant)


This is going to be a personal post. And this is about bringing up a child. Your suggestions will be appreciated.

I think whether intelligent or idiot, quick to learn or dull, all people, especially children, deserve to value themselves highly, and to have some happiness.

But what happens is that if a child has problems in studying, or problems with his personal habits, we impose our views on him/her. The dignity of the child is undercut by derogatory comments, and in the name of discipline, he is made to suffer for his lethargy, carelessness, inattention, whatever.

My own stand on this is that, whatever you do, don't devalue him- don't treat him as if he is not worth anything. Especially, if he likes to do something, don't take it away from him because he is not good at things you want him to be good at.

You can be a fool: some are born fools. But when parents and teachers work overtime to turn your foolish mind against yourself, teach you to back yourself into a corner, train you to think you are not capable of anything- it is terrible what we do in the name of love and discipline.

Let him be happy. Let him feel good.

Why should it bug us?


4 comments:

  1. Why haven't you made the post longer? It deserves more.

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  2. I agree with what Kartikey had said. This post deserves to be longer than it is.

    It is a pertinent point for the current time. Our dreams are imposed on children. We expect certain behaviour, certain discipine and certain marks to make them look good. But the point is they look good by themselves and we only make them look clumsy and ugly by being forceful about what we want.

    Parents, mostly mothers, must drop the notions of marks and ranks and let their children find it out for themselves. All that I would recommend is to be bit disciplined in making them learn the art of discipline. All said and done discipline in life matters a lot.

    We must give children lot of freedom but then at the same time we must teach them the essentials of discipline and respect. One need not be dictatorial in doing that but should persist and make an impact on the child.

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  3. How do you discipline a child? That is what i want to know. Please make it a post, Balajhi.

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